Dear Future You,
It’s hard to ask for help. It is easy to feel like asking for help is an admission of being weak, incapable, or incompetent.
Asking for help does not mean you are weak or incapable. Asking for help is an admission that you are human. All human beings need help from one another. It’s why we have evolved to be social beings rather than entirely independent of one another.
Sometimes we need to ask for help because we can’t see clearly — our perspective is clouded by emotions, frustrations, feeling overwhelmed. These are the clear signs that we are human.
What is important for us to remember is that when we struggle, we need to accept that we are imperfect and human, and ask for help early and clearly. This is especially true for those of us who don’t typically ask for help — our families and friends and colleagues may not immediately recognize our plea for help because it’s atypical for us to ask.
“I need your help,” is an unmistakable way to indicate what you are asking of someone. There is never a penalty for stating what may seem obvious to you. It only helps others to understand your needs.